The Huffington Post Adapts Some of "The 50th Law"

In the present there is constant change and so much we cannot control. If you try to micro-manage it all, you lose even greater control in the long run. The answer is to let go and move with the chaos that presents itself to you -- from within it, you will find endless opportunities that elude most people. Don't give others the chance to pin you down; keep moving and changing your appearances to fit the environment. If you encounter walls or boundaries, slip around them. Do not let anything disrupt your flow.

As infants, we were surrounded by many things that were unfamiliar and unpredictable -- people acting in ways that did not make sense, events that were hard to figure out. This was the source of great anxiety. We wanted the world around us to be more familiar. What was not so predictable became associated in our minds with darkness and chaos, something to dread. Out of this fear, a desire was born deep inside of us to somehow gain greater control over the people and events that eluded our grasp. The only way we knew how to do this was to grab and hold, to push and pull, exerting our will in as direct a manner as possible to get people to do what we wanted. Over the years, this can become a lifelong pattern of behavior -- more subtle as an adult, but infantile at heart.